In my humble opinion, too many children are over-scheduled, over-supervised, over-protected, over… over… over… to the point that they run the risk of what my friend Roy Parker calls the “perils of perfectionism.” In his upcoming book, The Next Right Thing, he advises, “Be careful with the subtleties of perfectionism. After all, children, and their parents, will learn most from their mistakes.”
My summers were spent running to the park to play baseball, endless hours climbing the apple tree in the back field, building tree houses, walking in muddy streams, riding my bike literally everywhere, hanging out with my friends for hours--sometimes just doing nothing. Just before sunset, my father would whistle for me to come home for dinner. That’s the same father who said to me on numerous occasions, “Mike, the secret to true success is to fail early and to fail often.” Needless to say, I have embraced his paradoxical advice!
In Wendy Mogel’s wonderful book, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, she asks parents many provocative and insightful questions. “Does your child get enough time to horse around? To make noise? To get into trouble? To break things?” Dr. Mogel contends that all children need a messy, unstructured, unproductive free-for-all every now and then!
So, as you head off on your summer experiences and journeys, enjoy the precious moments you have with your families. Release your children from the pressures of modern life, unplug their digital devices, clear their schedules, turn off their televisions, and let them simply lay in the grass to watch the clouds float by.
Have a terrific summer break!